For the love of Webster’s…

There are many reasons why I’m rarely on Facebook, but one of the many reasons is people’s lack of spelling.  You’ve got folk posting all day like they’re getting paid for it, but can’t spell to save worth a dime.

After watching Scandal last night, I did my nightly quick look because I like to see what people are saying about episode, I saw stalker spelt (English way) “stocker”.  I saw Scandal spelt, “Scandel”.  Those are the two that immediately come to mind, but trust me, misspelling runs rampant on Facebook, like a case of crabs in a dirty frat house! I mean really?!  Whenever  I see misspelled words, I cringe and then want to hide the post so I don’t have to look at it again and have my eyes bleed. 

I can forgive typos or even a minor grammatical error as they can and do happen, but when I see simple words or realize the word was written in the context of how the offending person pronounces it, I’m less forgiving.  At minimum, we’ve all got high school educations; most of which took place before the “No Child Left Behind” debacle was enacted.  Now, for those of us who have secondary or greater educations, I’m sorry, I’m even the less forgiving; correction, I’m not forgiving at all.  How the heck can one spend thousands or tens of thousands for their degrees and fall so short in their writing of the simplest things?

I understand and even respect vernacular and colloquialisms; I’m known to drop some Jamaican patois in a post, but for the love of Webster’s can people learn to spell words correctly and subsequently, even use them correctly?  Sheesh! *smdh*

I’m sure I’m not the only one who feels this way.  In fact, I know LadyLee will be nodding her head like a bobble head doll as she’s reading this.  Don will do some cosigning too. 

I know that Facebook is a casual interaction, but with so many people using it for many different reasons, folk should be mindful of the message they’re sending.  Technology while a good thing, is making many people dumber as they lose their ability to speak and write correctly.  I can’t begin to tell you how I cringe when I read emails that are oftentimes written in text-speak.  Really?  If I wanted that kind of interaction, I’d have text and not emailed.  I’ve spoken with high school teachers and college professors who’ve likewise complained about the younger generation’s inability to write and effectively communicate. 

I’m glad that I’m from a place where speaking well was not optional.  I’m glad I had parents who refused to allow me to overdo casual speech.  I’m happy that I chose the major I did where I was able to fully appreciate and use the English language well.  I’m proud of myself for knowing time and place in how I speak.  And mostly happy that I’m not of the generations just behind me because at least I know that I’m not just a pretty face.  I can actually string words together and form solid and meaningful sentences both oral and written.

I recall when I was in my twenties after having Lil Lady and a Headhunter told me that with my degree I’d never have a career because a Lang/Litt major would amount to much.  Boy was he ever wrong!  With my degree, I’ve been able to boost my career advantage and command salaries and positions where others couldn’t.  I’m deferred to for my technical writing and documentation production abilities, which has afforded me the opportunity to shine to upper and senior management.  So, thanks Mr. Head Hunter, I turned out just fine!

Off topic, I’m not 100%, but am feeling a little better.  I’d rather not be taking the Rx, but unless Bayou Creole is going to send me some roots medicine or I can get my hands on some good old ‘bush’ medicine, I have to do what I have to be well. 

Have a great weekend my lovelies!


Live the life you love; love the life you live!


What we say…

Even without speaking, we send messages by our body language, interests, kindnesses, absence or presence, silence. Add words to the mix, and we have a recipe for remarkable impact, whether positive or negative. – Dr. Charles Stanley

When I read Dr. Stanley’s quote  this morning, I recalled how Bill Clinton’s body language and words were broken down after his speech endorsing President Obama and while I didn’t need analytical evidence to confirm much of what I already know, it was oddly good to have it broken down just a little bit further.  Why?  Because I’ve always known that silence can and does speak volumes and also because the expression, “it’s not what you say, it’s how you say it”, goes hand-in-hand with silence speaking volumes. 

Just because one is smiling; doesn’t mean they’re happy.  Their eyes, gesturing, and body language will confirm or deny their happiness.  However, because we condition ourselves to only grasp what is physically obvious, we neglect the benign message/truth in what’s really being said.  Simply put, we just don’t pay attention to the signs. 

We live in a world where virtual communication runs rampant and things can and do get misconstrued quickly and easily.  We forget that text can’t talk; therefore, don’t realistically convey our emotions and sentiments; regardless of the “lol” or supporting emoticons.  We’re a world distracted, dehumanized, distant, and often times without proper or adequate means of real expression.  Essentially, we’ve forgotten how to communicate, so things, as I previously stated, get missed. 

Language comes in many forms and Dr. Stanley expressed simply; though strongly how important communication in its various states.  We have to and need to be aware of what we’re saying at all times.  We have to make clear distinctions of saying what we mean and meaning what we say in word and supporting body language. 

Be our communication verbal or silent, it conveys a powerful energy, which should not be taken lightly.  It is our responsibility to know whether we’re articulating in the affirmative or the negative and how we’ll impact others. 

In the past two weeks, we’ve heard a lot of posturing from the various contingents of the Democratic and Republican parties.  We’ve heard the words, read between the lines, and even watched the body language.  How many of us were able to distinguish “the remarkable impact” they sent?  We have to remain in tuned family and it starts within.  It starts with each of us knowing how we speak and how to speak.  We must speak from truth.  We must speak from and with clarity.  We must know and understand the message we’re trying to convey.  We must listen to the inner voice that is often the voice of truth, reason; our intuition…our gut.  We must honour ourselves to live by positive word, action, and deed because body language can easily turn our so-called spoken truth into a lie.

I’ll close with this analogy.  A man says, “I love you” to his wife…words and then beats her…action/body language…”Even without speaking, we send messages by our body language, interests, kindnesses, absence or presence, silence. Add words to the mix, and we have a recipe for remarkable impact, whether positive or negative.”

Need I say more?

That is all!

If you can’t say it right, then don’t say it…

Given I was born and raised in the UK, studied and earned a B.A Lang/Litt, and have a pretty firm command on being well spoken, I undoubtedly cringe when I hear things mispronounced. I prescribe to the philosophy of the wealthy, “if you have to ask how much it cost, you can’t afford it”, but with words…”If you can’t pronounce it, then you shouldn’t say it”. So, imagine my shock, appall, and then subsequent humour with the following…

My bestie came to my desk this morning to say hi and drop something off for me. During the conversation, she tells me that she’s in search of a fragrance that won’t make her husband sneeze and how she happened upon a woman who was wearing a fragrance that appealed to her. She asked the woman what it was and the woman replied, “Juicy Cooter”. (Currently holding in my laughter as I type) I said, “she’s wearing what?????” And that’s where I lost it. I let out a roar of a belly laugh as I tried to say, “did she mean Couture?” My bestie nods her head affirmatively as she too now erupts into a belly laugh. I finally regained composure and said, “I guess she has no idea of how to say Couture or she’d have thought better of what she actually said?!” We agreed between laughter that neither of us would want to walk around smelly like Juicy Cooter.

This led me to recall a girl Lil Lady’s knows who stated she wanted to get a pair of Looboat’ins (loo bow (soft) ‘t’ ins; yes, my readers; she actually said that. My ears bled profusely upon hearing that. I said, if she can’t pronounce the rather fine, expensive, and quality footwear, she obviously should not be wearing them. Agree?

Call me a word snob, but really? If you’re trying to impress someone or you want to wear or own something expensive; something obviously foreign, at least know how to properly pronounce it. The following are some other words that make my ears bleed and make me want to wretch at the sound of the mispronunciation…

Gee van she – Givenchy
Ver sayse – Versace
E Saint Law rent – Yves St. Laurent
Hoot Cooter – Haute Couture
Whores De Over – hors d’oeuvres
Juno say qua – Je ne sais quoi
Arrow postal – Aeropostale

Sidenote…here’s a few regular words that are either often mispronounced or are just plain wrong…

Irregardless – not a word
Mines – grammatically incorrect
Conversate – not a word
Skrimp – definitely not a word

My fingers hurt for having actually typed those awful words. Please feel free to add some of your own

That is all!