I’d like to teach the world to sing…

Like most of America, I watched the Super Bowl and paid attention to the many commercials that successfully vied and made it to the most coveted spots in television advertising. I enjoyed some of the commercials and contrary to many Americans, I quite enjoyed the Coke commercial. While watching it, I said to My Love, “there’s gonna be all kinds of flack on this one.” He nodded in agreement.

Last I checked, this country is called the United States of America, and I’d like to hazard a guess that ‘united’ not only stands for the culmination of the 50 states, but also the mélange of nationalities this country comprises of. So, unless I missed something in history class where the US; again, emphasis on U was also referred to as the “melting pot” and melting means, to liquefy or blend gradually. Therefore, on that premise, I think it’s safe to say that the ‘United’ States of America means to unite and blend gradually the many origins of its people.

I digress and back to my issue. The Coke commercial presented America the Beautiful in English and the languages of other countries to represent the collective population of America; thus, creating a social media hail storm of negativity. People were up in arms that the song was not presented solely in English. Being from another country, which is also often referred to and seen as a melting pot for its diverse cultural and ethnic population, as a black woman from said country who has served in the US Armed Forces, I take offence to those who are enraged that the song wasn’t sung solely in English. I resent that those offended spewed their bigotry; especially when they’ve probably never lived outside of the country, experienced life as a minority, and never served their own military yet cry patriotism.

These very same “patriots” probably never gave patriotism much thought until 9/11 and then all of sudden everyone became An American and claimed their rights as citizens to defend their country if in no other way, but by voicing it. As I said, I served military and enlisted before I was even a citizen, so I’d like to say, “shut the hell up!” These new-fangled patriots make me laugh. I’m especially amused by those who don’t even simply say “I’m American”, but preface it with the origin of their fore parents who left their original countries of birth to restart their lives in America. Suddenly everyone has become “I’m (insert country/nationality) American forgetting that some of their fore parents never fully learned English and/or passed down their native tongue in order to preserve their history, cultural integrity, and/or diversity of which many still speak or practice their cultural events thereof.

Wait, I’m running off track here…My beef is not with Coke as I originally said. I enjoyed the commercial and thought it great that Coke, which is a globally recognized brand that is consumed with immediate recognition regardless of knowing the language of the country it’s being sold in. I take issue with those opposing Coke’s doing America the Beautiful in many languages. America is beautiful for cultural diversity not in spite of it. America is beautiful because people from all over the world became a part of it and brought pieces of their homelands to help build it and create it.

Back in the 70s CoCa Cola’s theme song was “I’d Like To Teach The World To Sing”, it specifically said “World” not “America”, so if it’s teaching the world to sing, then it sings in many tongues, not solely in English. The native tongue of this country was not English, it was the many tongues of the Native Americans that resided here. It became English after being colonized and even then, there were Dutch settlers and many of whom still speak in Dutch; the Amish for example, but I guess folk forgot that and maybe need to go back to school.

I will say I’m open minded enough to say I allow people their opinions and that if you live in a country such as America where the primary language is English that one should learn how to speak the language; however, do those who travel outside of the country take the time to learn the native tongue of the country they’re visiting? I’m sure those residents could say speak our language while you’re here. Furthermore, the English spoken here isn’t even authentic. Americans speak a derivative of the English language, so I think I have the right to challenge here…I speak English; proper English at that.

Those objecting to Coke’s Super Bowl commercial have vowed to stop drinking Coke, which made me laugh because Coke has so many other products; many of which these offended consumers will still purchase, so I’m sure they’re really not hurting Coke and its entities at all. And since most Coke drinkers have their preference to Pepsi, what will they drink instead? What these offended consumers don’t realize is that Corporate America has its share of offending practices like racial profiling for products, using slave labour, outsourcing to the very countries whose language may have been used in the Coke commercial; the same clothing which they proudly purchase and wear. Corporate America is driven by power and profit and the latter being what the offended fail to see. They can hate on Coke for the commercial and still support another company that is stomping on their rights for gender, sexual orientation, race, demography, to name a few. The so-called “Offended” may want to take a better look at themselves and then dig deep and I mean real deep into the corporations they support before casting stones at something that should be uplifting and inspiring.

Yea, I said it!

Real and funny conversation with co-worker

The following is an Instant Message conversation I had with a co-worker post having overheard some of his lunch conversation regarding the comment Rush Limbaugh made.

ME: Hi! So, am I a slut?

CW: nice way to start off the morning…first of all, I think women need to take back the word so that it isn’t so negative. Male sluts are heroes. 2) a slut is a sexually promiscuous woman; sleeping around. From what I know of you, that is not you.

ME: No, I am certainly not that. In fact, I was teasing you as I overheard some of your conversation during lunch yesterday and that’s what prompted the message. Sadly, men fail to realize that sex is typically a hetrosexual act that they too participate in, so if they’re sleeping around with a woman who’s sleeping around, they’re equally promiscuous; sluts, and should be equally tagged as such. However, you and I know that there is no true equality and women will always be greater of the two evils. I am sexually liberated in thought and limited practice and feel that women should be and allowed to be free of such negative labeling, but again, this is a male dominated and driven society, which prides itself on demeaning anyone who does not live in conformance to what they deem is appropriate, even though they make themselves hypocrites in the process. If someone wants to deem me a slut, whore, or whatever for my liberal views on sex and the practice thereof, is fine because people will say what they want regardless of what they know for fact or conjecture. Sex within the confines of a relationship is no better or worse than sex outside of one; save for the labeling. But if one has had several relationships over the course of their lives, that tends to equate to sex with each partner, so could that not also deem one a slut or promiscuous? The whole thing should be something that has no merit to politicians. Contraception is necessary for both pregnancy protection and health maintenance. If they’re going to deem contraception immoral for lack of better word and an unnecessary coverage through insurance, then Cialis and it’s counterparts; should likewise not be covered. ED does not prevent a man from urinating; it prevents adequate sexual performance and sex is NOT a health condition. As you can tell, this discussion can go on for days and become rather convoluted.

CW: I was wondering what prompted the question. You were eavesdropping. I like that makes me wonder who else eavesdrops on our lunch conversations

ME: You were louder than you might have thought you were talking

CW: I think if they have a problem with it, they should just write in the insurance contract that they do cover contraception, but not for sluts. Of course, using the conservative definition of ‘an unmarried, sexually active woman.’

ME: riiiight! that’s gonna work

CW: c’mon. if you want to discriminate, then just spell out your discrimination

ME: so that’s tantamount to saying married woman can get contraceptives, but their engaged or in a relationship counterparts can’t.

CW: isn’t that what Georgetown is saying?

ME: semantics will always be used or at least considered, but it’s all bullsh*t

CW: actually, Georgetown, being Catholic, may not want to cover contraceptives at all

ME: well, men on boy sex doesn’t require contraceptives anyway

CW: pills are also much safer than hangers

ME: they are, but STDs can still occur. Sadly, many don’t realize that some are passed orally

CW: true. I agree with you on these principles, but I don’t think the Gubment should be telling insurance companies what they must and must not cover. If you don’t like the insurance, don’t buy it
ME: LOL @ gubment. And you’re right; they should not, but they line the pockets of some of the gubment folk, so they’ll tow the line with them. Not buying the insurance isn’t that easy because we all need coverage and tend to have to opt for the health plan the company we work for provides.

End of conversation. 

My co-worker and I often engage in social discuss where we bounce thoughts and ideas off each other and it’s interesting to have captured this one in writing.  So, what are YOUR thoughts?

That is all!

My body; my choice

I was not going to address this topic, but with all the drama in the news and the constant nagging; I felt I needed to get some things off my chest.

Like most women and some supportive men, I take no pleasure or comfort with these politrickers telling what I can and can’t do with my body. I’m tired of their constant ranting and raving about what they feel is right or acceptable for me and other women alike.

At sixteen, my mother took me to Planned Parenthood; not because I was sexually active, but to get the education needed for whenever I became so. I was educated on the many and various forms of birth control, STDs, pregnancy, as well as my overall gynecological health. I felt that I was given the tools and resources needed for me to make an informed decision for myself. Contrary to what the politrickers are trying to say about Planned Parenthood, they did not promote abortion and to the best of my recollection, it was only brought up as part of my being informed as to my options regarding pregnancy. I vividly recall the nurse saying it wasn’t the option I should immediately go for if I found myself facing and unplanned or unwanted pregnancy because it came with a plethora of emotions with having to make such a decision. She also stated that it was something that had to be carefully decided logistically as there were still doctors and centers that performed services in places that were not in compliance with appropriate medical compliances and preyed on the fragility of women facing such a decision. Again, I found myself well informed, well educated, and very capable at making decisions regarding my sexual and gynecological well-being.
Time passed and I found myself needed birth control and I returned to Planned Parenthood in order to go over the choices that would best suit my needs and Planned Parenthood once again provided the appropriate tools and resources for me. They did not promote casual sex or promiscuity as these politrickers would have you believe and in fact, the few girls I knew that had abortions, did not have them at a Planned Parenthood facility; but instead at private clinics. So, these morons need to get their damn facts straight. That aside, Planned Parenthood served my needs for GYN health and my birth control, which was being used properly for both pregnancy and STD prevention in addition to alleviating the severe cramping that came with my period.

Fast forward to 1991 where my boyfriend at the time decided to PLAN a pregnancy. We consulted with our respective doctors to get the necessary health checks and proceeded forthwith. In April of 1992, I gave birth to our daughter and was content with the decision we made. Since we were not married and our relationship ultimately failed, I found myself facing whether or not I’d want more children. In truth, I never really saw myself as a mother/parent when I was younger; the reasons are a blog for another day, but I couldn’t convince myself that I needed to have another child; so I decided that getting my tubes tied was the best option for me. My daughter was about 3 at the time and I consulted with my then doctor about permanent birth control. To my astonishment, he frowned upon my decision citing, I was under 30, only had one child, and may change my mind in the future. WHAT?? I was 24 when I made a CONSCIOUS and educated decision to have child and here was three years later, a little older and wiser, making yet another conscious and educated decision not to have another child and I’m being told “no”. Needless to say I wasn’t happy and presented this to the doctor. “So, you mean to tell me, I can go out and have a baby with whomever I want with his permission or otherwise and the insurance company is okay taking on that financial burden of my pre/post natal care in addition to the healthcare of my baby, but they won’t allow permanent pregnancy prevention?” His reply; and without hesitation “yes”. Now, you tell me that’s not some straight boolshyt right there?! 😕

So, here I am paying for birth control which over time would be more costly than the same day procedure of getting my tubes tied, which to date is the dumbest thing I’d ever heard. Fast forward a year and a half later where I have a new health plan and a doctor who’ll actually listen to my wants and…wait for it…CONCURRED with my decision. Why? He said, “it’s your body and your choice”. Yay for my doctor! So, in the fall of 1996, I got my tubes tied and have not looked back since.

I fail to see how or why these moronic gaping wide a-holes think they know what’s best for me. I have issues with the commercials that promote male sexual function and I have further issue with the fact that many men can and have gotten their Cialis, Viagra, or whatever blue pill they need to get their d*cks hard and stay up, but getting birth control covered is a problem. Really? I take offense to the fact that more than 50% of politrickers have been linked to some damn sex scandal, but they’re the dictators of all things moral and wholesome. C’mon son, who the fack do you think you’re fooling? The good majority of us are educated enough to know the pros and cons of our sexual habits. Yes, there are those who pop kids out like little crotch trophies and go on to have television shows to tout their fertility in the name of religion. Networks took great pleasure in chronically and in some ways even exploiting families of multiple multiples in one family, but a woman wanting to prevent pregnancy is a problem? ?Hmpth!! Let me also add that heterosexual sex is a TWO party activity and BOTH parties are and should be responsible for the outcome of their act. Sex is as old as time and is and will always be an act of both pleasure and procreation; it’s how and what each party wants from it where the decisions should be made. Yes, sometimes birth control fails and again, the option of that outcome should rest solely on the parties involved; not some damn politricker. More focus should be on the predators in the church of whichever religion instead of using religion as a political soapbox for spouting their illogical rhetoric.

We already have a deficient system that is supposed to protect abused and neglected children; how about the focus being put of fixing that system. These politrickers need to take religion out of this and insert common sense practices and education instead. They need to stop trying to dictate moral and religious views as if people aren’t capable of making sound decisions of their own. The church is deficient in many ways because it’s operated by HUMANS who are in and of themselves flawed and in many ways religion is a subject to interpretation regardless of what the Holy books say. When crime, injustice, and human frailty are removed from religious doctrine, then the politricers can use religion and their footstool.

Side note, a-holes like Rush Limbaugh with his illogical and downright asinine commentary and recently the borderline tyrannical rants of Kirk Cameron about homosexuality need__________ (insert your own thoughts) because I still can’t believe they had to gall to think saying what they did would go unaddressed or would be acceptable.

Well, I’ve dropped my two-cents in the bucket…woosah!
That is all!

Who cares?

Like many, I watched the Academy Awards. Actually, I can’t say I really “watched” it; I moreso glazed over it from time to time. I don’t really care who won what because I can’t see how it really plays any significant role in my life. Yes, I was pleased that Octavia Spencer received the award for Best Supporting Actress and that Sean Combs received his award for Best Executive Producer for no other reason than they were black. It’s a given white people are going to win, so I guess that’s why my interest is minimal. That aside, my greatest lack of interest is in who wore what. Yes, there were some beautiful dresses worn, but the average woman 1) can’t afford the likes of them, 2) doesn’t have the body to pull off some of them and 3), would have no where to wear one of them. But above and beyond that, I have a hard time taking any kind of ‘Fashion Police’ citations from some of the woman on patrol. Kelly Osbourne with her hair that looked like it was grey and dyed pinkish/purple and the woman, whom for the life of me can’t recall her name (insert, obviously I didn’t care), who looked awful in her dress; who’s hair was a mess, and she could stand to lose a 10-15lbs before she sat their critiquing. That’s tantamount to me listening to Oprah give me advise on my weight. 😕

I get that the Academy Awards is a big deal and is watched globally, but again, who cares? It’s just another event that the hype will outweigh the lasting conversation post event. Save for Cirque de Soliel, which was and always is amazing, I paid little or no attention to much else. Get all primped up is always nice, but when it ends up being fodder for the Fashion Police and the tabloids, it tends to somewhat overshadow the actual event.

I hope that Octavia Spencer can and will secure additional roles and carry on with her acting career. Shout out to Sean Combs and I hope he’ll do more things like Undefeated instead of the crap he pawns off as music. Shout out to the remaining eight; I think there’s a grand total of 10 blacks who’ve received Academy Awards in its 84 year history. It’s my hope other black actors can and will secure roles worthy of their talents being award worthy and maybe then I’ll have more interest in watching in the future.

That is all!