By now, many of you have heard that Mizzou Football player, Michael Sam came out as being gay, which naturally caused mixed reaction from the NFL, media, and everyday people alike.
Personally, I think was Michael Sam has done is courageous, positive, and a testament to his character. I’d rather see him be true to his authentic self than to remain “in the closet” or “on the down low” and live a pretentious life in order to secure their dream or be whatever someone else wants them to be. I realize that he has in some ways put a target on his back, but at the end of the day, how can that not be respected regardless of what ones views are on homosexuality? It’s sad and ironic how we can makes concessions, excuses, and justify someone’s adultery or infidelity, but we can’t or won’t accept someone’s blatant honesty about their sexuality. The worse offense are those who “toy” with the idea of bi-sexuality as “just a phase” when there are so many that are being true and still catch Satan’s hell for their honesty.
Coming from a Jamaican family, accepting a homosexual family member took a lot for some of my family members because being gay in Jamaica; even the presumption thereof is tantamount to signing your own death warrant. What’s worse, the government and police may even find ways to justify hate crimes against the gay community. Being that my gay family member resides in the US, he’s a little more immune to the overall and overt hatred shown to him and his orientation, but that’s not to say he didn’t catch some initial flack within the confines of his/our family. Being his father’s namesake and only son, I’m sure it was harder on him than the rest of the family, but at the end of the day, his son is his son and love conquers all. My cousin lives his life authentically and I applaud him for that in spite of the bigotry I know he receives. Sadly, I’d rather him experience the known hatred he probably faces from time to time, than to live hating himself for not being able to be who he is.
I’d like to think that the NFL, other players, and fans will accept Michael Sam first as a ball player with his talents to qualify him for the coveted placement and then for being a man, and lastly for being a gay man. As long as he can perform the requirements necessary for his position is what the aforementioned should concern themselves with. I think it’s pretty pathetic that straight men think that just because someone is gay, they want them or checking them out. Just like every straight woman wouldn’t be checking them out; there is simply no difference. I, personally think it’s the insecurity of the heterosexual man that makes them uncomfortable around gay men and said gay man shouldn’t have to play a role or part in order to make the heterosexual man comfortable.
Homosexuality has and will always be a part of society and we need to educate ourselves instead of remaining ignorant and socially unaccepting. Just as we don’t choose our skin colour or gender, gay people do not choose to be gay’ I can’t think of anyone who’d want to willing sign up to be discriminated against.
Again, I applaud and respect Micheal Sam for being comfortable in his own skin to open up about something so personal. He may or may not succeed in the NFL, but in my book, he’ll succeed in life because his action spoke volumes. We spend so much time assuming or suspecting this or that person is gay, so he has removed that worry from his life. He can be out in public without the paparazzi scoring as much money; they’ll sell his photos regardless, as they would if he’d remained quiet about his orientation. Talk about sticking it to the media! ^5 What he has also done, is given other young gay men and women an opportunity to likewise be true to themselves and remove the proverbial Scarlet Letter from their chests. His road ahead may not be an easy walk, but at least he can do it in comfortable shoes. 😉
Yea, I said it!