Blog Challenge: Day 30 — A letter to yourself, tell yourself EVERYTHING you love about yourself



Dear (former) Me:

I’m so happy that you’re happy!  I like that you’ve been able to accomplish so much in spite of your past, your pain, and your trials. God did as He said he would, and turned them all around and made you triumphant and victorious.  You tripped and fell many times and questioned yourself, your direction, and even your purpose in life, but you stood up; you fought on and stopped berating yourself for the choices you made.  You came to truly love yourself and for that you should be very proud.

intelligence is sexy

You always relied on your smarts and not your looks to make it through.  Not society, not people, and most importantly; not yourself allowed you to be “just a pretty face”.  As you would say, if you were, you’d be f*cked in life…lol!  You focused on what is truly important and that’s your brain, your content of character and your ability to see beyond what’s so obvious.  Intelligence has gotten you out of many a compromising situation, not an ability to play dumb.

be nice

In spite of the pain others have inflicted, you were never a hurt person; hurting others.  You remained compassionate and kind to other’ even those unworthy of your kind heart.  Your random acts of kindness weren’t always random, but planned and intended to make a difference.  Why?  Because it was important to you.  You are an inherently good person who took all her pain and transformed it into something beautiful; something positive.

u r special

Even though you weren’t always told you were special or made to feel as such, you finally found a way to tell yourself that.  You opened your heart to the most important person…YOURSELF and allowed yourself to feel, know, and believe you are special.  You no longer allow others to make you feel what they want you to feel.  You’ve come to stand up for yourself, know yourself, appreciate yourself, and be the wonderful person God created you to be.  I’m so very proud of you for that.


Given that your modeling in life was rather questionable, you learned to stand firm by yourself and for yourself.  You became your own advocate and ultimately, you’re own hero.  You don’t look to others to honour or validate you because you don’t need it.  You are uniquely and beautifully made and you’ve embraced it fully.  You’ve fought the championship bouts in the ring of life and came out the victor; not necessarily for your strength, but for the weakness you felt and needed to overcome.  You armoured up and said, “I refuse to back down.  I’ve taken too much for too long and now I’m fighting back”. That, my dear, is worth the title of (s)hero!

with god

When all else failed and people let you down, God was always there with you.  Too often you tried to go it alone, but you always had the good sense to open your heart back to  Him.  You allowed Him to take the wheel and steer you on your course and it paid off. You trusted.  You believed.  You held your faith.  You trusted. You suffered, ultimately you were rewarded. God’s grace is exhibited in and through you because you knew that you are better off with Him than without.  Hats off to you for that!


So, here you are now, a transformation from a broken and wounded child to a strong and beautiful woman whose battle scars serve as honour badges for the victories won.  I am so very proud of you and I love you more than you know.


(current) Me


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Blog Challenge: Day 22 — Something you wish you hadn’t done in your life

Another one of those entries that make me go hmm


Given that each of my experiences have been learning lessons; be they good or bad, I can’t immediately think of anything I wish I hadn’t done.

(insert the hovering fingers over the keyboard while I think)


I think I can say it was to trust when I shouldn’t have or was given no reason to.  Trust has been something very hard to come by in my life, so when trust has been compromised or broken, it’s hurts to the very core of me.  I’ve had people take advantage of my kindness, loyalty and fidelity in ways that almost crumbled my faith in humanity.  Fortunately, my faith and my ability to forgive; even those unworthy or such, I’ve been able to move forward in life.




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Blog Challenge: Day 15: Something or someone you couldn’t live without, because you’ve tried living without it.


My walk in life has been nothing more than by God’s grace!  He has seen me through so much and even when I didn’t know how to pray; how to say “thank you”; or get my life right, He was still there for and with me.

I can’t say that I’ve ever purposefully tried to live without Him, but I do know that I’ve tried to live without His guidance, direction, and inspiration; those are the times when I needed Him the most.

My faith is strong and I include God in my life daily. I take none of whom I’ve turned out to be lightly and I know it’s by His will that I’m still standing and still strong.  I am purposed by His love for me and for that I’d know I can’t or won’t live without Him.


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What’s the rush?

Of late, I’ve been encountering more and more women who have expressed that impatience is one of their character flaws, which led me to ask the question, “what’s the rush?”

Sadly and unfortunately, we live in a society and climate where fast is the presumed best.  We’ve become spoiled with all things instant access and/or readily available and we’ve lost our tolerance and ability to wait.  This lack of patience has caused a plethora of health problems, caused the demise of relationships, caused financial ruin; to name just a few things adversely impacting us.  Again, I ask…what’s the rush?  Why can’t we wait for the light to turn fully before pulling off?  Why can’t we ignore that text instead of risking an accident to respond?  Why can’t a we not have something we can’t necessarily afford at the moment?  These aren’t simply rhetorical questions, I truly would like answers.

We have allowed ourselves to fall slave to incessant and even unrealistic deadlines; insane activity schedules for/with our children; being driven to having the next best thing before the expiration date has expired on the thing we couldn’t wait to have not too long ago.  What gratification has been borne of these things versus the simple act of waiting?

I’ve watched a marriage fall apart because he moved at a slower pace than her.  I’ve watched children get fat or develop unhealthy eating habits because they’re fed fast and/or processed instead of balanced home cooked meals.  I’ve seen debts increase because someone had to have that new pair of Jordan’s instead of paying their rent or other necessity.  I’ve seen kids flunk out of school because they expected it to be easy/easier and didn’t have the necessary skills to wait and learn or ask for help.

We’re a society obsessed on everything being in a hurry without the wherewithall to just wait.  Psalm 46:10 says “Be still and know that I am God”, I think many need to understand that and the importance of simply being instead of always doing.

The life we save could very well be our own if only we take a moment to be still and appreciate that not everything needs to be “right now”.  On an occasion where I was in a rush to get out the house and was angered by being delayed by the slowness of someone else, I was later fortunate for their slowness because it prevented me from being a part of an accident that took place at the exact time I was supposed to be on the road.  My Godmother was spared from being a 9/11 victim because she overslept that morning.  God has a way of whispering for us to slow down; to live; to breathe and allow His presence to manifest in and around us; many of us would be well-served to listen and BE STILL!

To those of you who are guilty of being impatient, I challenge you to consider what you have to lose or gain by that action; hopefully, you’ll see that you’re doing yourself little good by being impatient and will then learn to embrace what you can control and let go of what you can’t.


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A question of faith…

It has been my experience that when faced with a trial that obviously seems contrary to what we’d want for ourselves, people tend to blame God for things not going right. A once faithful person, suddenly questions their faith and their God and lately, I’ve been experiencing that with a friend facing a divorce. Out of respect for her, I won’t air her business; however, I will say, I felt God manifest Himself quite openly through words I read in my devotions and through quotes that others had posted. Naturally, I shared these with my friend in an effect to open her heart and mind back to a positive state, but I realize that she’s in a downward state of being and needs to work through this phase in order to better receive what was shared.

Through my own life’s experiences, I chose to further trust my faith and listen to words of comfort and wisdom shared with me be they solicited or otherwise. I found it easier to trust my faith than trust man because it was man who created the pain or trial I was experiencing in the first place. I opened myself up to receive that which I may not have even been able to fully comprehend at that time if for no other reason than to plant the seed for fertilization and growth. The seeds eventually grew; as did I.

Life is a series of challenges, joys, highs and lows, disappointments, hurts, love; etc. and in the words of Aldous Huxley, “Experience is not what happens to you; it’s what you do with what happens to you”; very true and very wise words. Without varied experiences we cannot grow. Our lives are like seasonal changes; essential to growth, sustenance, and progression. We must live to experience and experience to live or we remain stagnant, bored, and boring. We can’t and should not seek to control everything in our lives, but instead be flexible and learn to roll with that which we experience and encounter in order to be a part of the ever-moving life cycle.

We must further realize that God works in His own time and not ours. Oftentimes, we think because we are believers and follow doctrine, we are entitled to our prayer requests being met without first truthfully looking into ourselves to determine if we are in fact worthy or ready to receive what we’re praying for. Yes, according to The Word, God says He’ll give you the desires of your heart, but are our desires pure? Are they selfish? Has the requester done their part in seeking God’s invention or intercession? These are things many do not consider; hence, later questioning God and/or their faith. Delay does not mean denial!

Old folks always told me that the space or dash on our headstones should count for something and that we shouldn’t want someone to lie at our eulogy and say, “they had or lived life” if they hadn’t. It’s something that has remained with me for most of my life. Yes, I cursed many a bad day or experience, but I’ve learned that without them I would not be the woman I am today. I rode the rough seas, navigated through life’s detours and I have a tale to tell. I took leap of faith, celebrated my trails turned triumphs, and again, have tales to tell. I celebrate life. I celebrate my faith. And I celebrate being unafraid to face adversity.

The following links are what have been pulse points this week. I share them hoping they’ll inspire, encourage, and allow you to also grow or be a positive influence to someone you may encounter.

God bless!
Seeking Guidance

Can we Really Trust God?

God’s Sovereign Delays

How To Stay Strong In Disappointment

Resting in the Faithfulness of God

God Acts On Our Behalf

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Baby feeling the spirit…


This video gives proof that babies/children feel things that many adults don’t and aren’t afraid to show it either. I came across this video and felt it needed to be shared. All too often, I see videos promoting children clearly not acting like children and adults recording it like it’s newsworthy.

This little girl is obviously feeling the spirit and her actions prove it.

Have a great day luvies!

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