This ain’t the Young & the Restless

I’m married to a man with two small kids; 13 and 10 and I coworker recently asked if I get along with my husbands ex and I said, “no!”  She then said, “oh, that’s a shame!”  And after the Divine put his hand over my mouth so I didn’t say what I really wanted to say, I took a breath and then said, “why is that?  I wasn’t aware that my having a friendship with her was a requirement.”  Sensing she’d crossed the line,  she went on to add, “I just figured for the sake of the kids it would be easier if everyone got along.”  That’s when I dodged the Divine intervention and went to to say, “this isn’t the Young & the Restless or any other show that romanticizes that exes can and should all get along; to include their new spouses or significant others.  (insert her stunned expression).  I then went on to add, “that’s the problem with society now, everyone believes the bs they see on tv or read in the papers.  As long as I get along with the kids, is what is important, not their mother.”  Her response after wishing she’d never been so bold as to make such an inquiry when we’re not even cool like that, was, “Yes, that’s what I meant.”  Really?  No, I think not.  I think she lives by some romanticized version of what she thinks life and relationships are or should be about.

Yes, I agree, we should all get along to a certain degree, but I don’t need to kicking it with his ex, holding conversation outside of what needs to be said, or having her as an active part of my life and current marriage to her ex-husband.  Furthermore, this woman has been rude and disrespectful to me and toward me, so again, why do I need to be cool with her?  As previously stated, as long as I get along with the kids and I’m not doing anything to harm them, is what’s important.

Since she opened to door to be all up in my business, I decided to give her an earful of fantasy versus reality.  My daughter’s father and I split amicably and shared custody of our daughter from age 3-17 when he passed.  I never got in his business; or he in mine.  We moved and lived on the same block, a small street and one house apart where we could stand in our respective driveways and wave at each other.  I didn’t go hang out at his house or he mine more than what was necessary.  His then wife and I were cool, and had on occasion hung out because we were in fact friends prior to their getting married.  No, I was not a fan of the idea; however, she and our daughter got along and I didn’t want anyone doing any shady ish behind my back, so I went along with it.  Once she tried to overstep her boundaries as a step-parent and doing shady ish, I ended that and reiterated to my ex that were the parents and any/all decisions and such are between us.  That buddy-buddy ish was for the birds for a plethora of reasons.

In closing, I added that his ex was not someone I’d kick it or be friends with even if she wasn’t his ex as our personalities are vastly different.  Furthermore, she’s a liar and untrustworthy; two qualities I abhour in a person.

So, after breaking it all down; certainly more than she bargained for, she apologized for over stepping.   “Check yo’self before you wreck yo’self” played loudly in my mental background.

Lesson of the day was: mind your own business and stop looking at life through rose-coloured glasses because “ain’t nobody got time f’dat”. Big shout out to Sweet Brown for that catch-phrase!

Tengo un bueno dia mi amors!

Fast ass teen invokes a murder…)*^%$)*$^) kids these days…

For those unfamiliar with the story, read here Father shoots teen boy

As a parent, I know there were things that my daughter may or may not do. Granted we can never truly swear for what our kids will do, I always hoped it would be the right thing. I taught her it’s best to be honest and face the consequences than to lie and make a bad situation worse. Again, we can’t never know what our kids will do when caught, but as a parent, we can only hope that our reaction to the situation is one that won’t compound the baseline issue.

In the case of this, in my opinion, fast-ass-lying-ass-lil-heffa, she shouldn’t have lied to her father when he busted her in bed with a boy she invited over. Now, I can’t say whether or not she knew her daddy had a gun in the house, but when she saw him reach for one, she should have confessed to knowing the kid. I think the father went to extremes in handling the situation and while he hasn’t been indicted yet according to the story, it’s likely he will be. Personally, I think his hot-in-the-pants daughter should be charged with involuntary manslaughter for lying and causing the boys death.

What the hell is wrong with kids these days? I’m not going say I was the model teen, but I’ll be damned if 1) I was going to bring a boy to the house with my folks home and 2) I damn sure wouldn’t have lied when caught given the evidence is right there. This is a very sad story and an egregious act of gross negligence on the part of both the father and daughter.

The family of the boy thought he was still on Spring Break and he was taught not to go into a girls room unless his presence was known. I guess he learned the hard way on that. SMDH! Once again, as a mother, I’d hope that my child would have sense enough to not pull a stunt like the one he did that got him killed.

This story saddens me and I’m curious to see how it plays out.

Yea, I said it!

What the )#*%)#%#%(+_?…

I saw the following picture and after throwing up in my mouth and choking on my bile, I felt compelled to share it with you and ask you to help me understand the hows and whys of what possesses women to do this.

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I mean really?  I’m sorry, that is not confidence that possesses these heffas to put fabric through this amount of stress and make the eyes of those unfortunate to see them bleed, it’s complete and utter bullshit and foolishness.  It’s sad and pathetic that these women had the audacity to think this was socially acceptable behaviour and appearance.  It’s bullshit like this that makes me want to go back on my former meds and no longer produce estrogen because this is a shameful reflection on women.  Ugh! My levels of disgust are beyond any ladylike words I can say, so I’ll do what I’ve been taught…”if you have nothing nice to say, then say nothing”.

I apologize for anyone who’ll need to be rushed to the ER or the eye doctor, but since we’re all friends and family, I needed you to help me get through this. 😉

 

Live the life you love; love the life you live!