When cell phone use goes too far…

Earlier this week, I was on campus at my alma mata and went to use the ladies room.  I walked in to hear a young lady using the toilet while still talking on the phone.  I could hear both ends of the conversation as the phone volume must have been set to high, which was far more than I needed to experience while peeing.  As I hurried to finish, I heard the young lady put the person on hold; presumably to wipe herself and then continue the conversation. 

As luck would have it, she and I came out of the stalls at the same time and she was still talking as she washed her hands and then make her exit; I just looked at her and shook my head.  C’mon girl!  From what I heard of the conversation, it could have certainly waited until she was done her business and then called her friend back.  And to make matters worse, the conversation wasn’t anything that one could consider an emergency, so why could she not have waited?  Where are we going as a society when we can’t disengage for a couple of minutes to handle natures business?  The more I see people on cell phones, the more annoyed I get. 

I’ve been forced to weave and dodge to get around a people on the street, in the store, or almost anywhere in public, they walk and text.  I’ve overheard way too many conversations because people insist in speaking really loud as if the person on the other end is deaf. 

My Love told me that while on travel, one of his co-workers walked into freshly laid cement because he was so busy texting and didn’t see the sign and subsequent cordoned off area of the fresh cement.  Needless to say, his shoes were ruined, he pissed off the masons, and was the laughing-stock of the group for the rest of the day.

I see groups of people out in public places where one would think the immediate social interaction would suffice, but no, they’re all on their phones.  It leads me to wonder why they even bothered to go out in the first place.  It seems like with all the engagement of social media, people are becoming more and more disengaged, which is pretty sad.  When I’m out with friends, I rarely ever pull my phone out and I make an issue if someone else does.  We’re supposed to be sharing time together; with each other, so there should be no need to include our respective phones. 

In addition to my annoyance, with the lack of limitations of where people are using their phones, I take offense when people text instead of calling.  I understand that sometimes texting is the best source of communicating with someone at certain times, but I refuse to have in-depth conversations with people via text.  Those conversations need to be voice-to-voice or face-to-face.  Text don’t talk and I’m not going to keep using emoti-speak to convey my emotions or have to wait to continue to conversation on account of overlapping messages.

There’s a time and place for everything, but it seems like real communication has become a lost art.  Penmanship has gone to hell because we type so much.  Vocabulary is not fully used or mastered because everyone abbreviations, which couple with bad spelling is a nightmare to read.  Many have real conversations that include emoti-speak, which drives me quite mad.  And worst of all, people have simply just lost the ability to speak and interact face-to-face.  We can’t have closeness; real closeness, if we’re so disconnected. 

This weekend, I challenge each of you to give up your cell phones for as long as possible and interact fully and wholly with other people.  Try to keep the use of your phones to the bare minimum and then let me know how it went.  I’ll do the same.

Truth be told, I play games on my phone more than I do anything else…hehe! 😉

Have a great weekend.

Live the life you love; love the life you live!

For the love of Webster’s…

There are many reasons why I’m rarely on Facebook, but one of the many reasons is people’s lack of spelling.  You’ve got folk posting all day like they’re getting paid for it, but can’t spell to save worth a dime.  What.is.up.with.that?

After watching Scandal last night, I did my nightly quick look because I like to see what people are saying about episode, I saw stalker spelt (English way) “stocker”.  I saw Scandal spelt, “Scandel”.  Those are the two that immediately come to mind, but trust me, misspelling runs rampant on Facebook, like a case of crabs in a dirty frat house! I mean really?!  Whenever  I see misspelled words, I cringe and then want to hide the post so I don’t have to look at it again and have my eyes bleed. 

I can forgive typos or even a minor grammatical error as they can and do happen, but when I see simple words or realize the word was written in the context of how the offending person pronounces it, I’m less forgiving.  At minimum, we’ve all got high school educations; most of which took place before the “No Child Left Behind” debacle was enacted.  Now, for those of us who have secondary or greater educations, I’m sorry, I’m even the less forgiving; correction, I’m not forgiving at all.  How the heck can one spend thousands or tens of thousands for their degrees and fall so short in their writing of the simplest things?

I understand and even respect vernacular and colloquialisms; I’m known to drop some Jamaican patois in a post, but for the love of Webster’s can people learn to spell words correctly and subsequently, even use them correctly?  Sheesh! *smdh*

I’m sure I’m not the only one who feels this way.  In fact, I know LadyLee will be nodding her head like a bobble head doll as she’s reading this.  Don will do some cosigning too. 

I know that Facebook is a casual interaction, but with so many people using it for many different reasons, folk should be mindful of the message they’re sending.  Technology while a good thing, is making many people dumber as they lose their ability to speak and write correctly.  I can’t begin to tell you how I cringe when I read emails that are oftentimes written in text-speak.  Really?  If I wanted that kind of interaction, I’d have text and not emailed.  I’ve spoken with high school teachers and college professors who’ve likewise complained about the younger generation’s inability to write and effectively communicate. 

I’m glad that I’m from a place where speaking well was not optional.  I’m glad I had parents who refused to allow me to overdo casual speech.  I’m happy that I chose the major I did where I was able to fully appreciate and use the English language well.  I’m proud of myself for knowing time and place in how I speak.  And mostly happy that I’m not of the generations just behind me because at least I know that I’m not just a pretty face.  I can actually string words together and form solid and meaningful sentences both oral and written.

I recall when I was in my twenties after having Lil Lady and a Headhunter told me that with my degree I’d never have a career because a Lang/Litt major would amount to much.  Boy was he ever wrong!  With my degree, I’ve been able to boost my career advantage and command salaries and positions where others couldn’t.  I’m deferred to for my technical writing and documentation production abilities, which has afforded me the opportunity to shine to upper and senior management.  So, thanks Mr. Head Hunter, I turned out just fine!

Off topic, I’m not 100%, but am feeling a little better.  I’d rather not be taking the Rx, but unless Bayou Creole is going to send me some roots medicine or I can get my hands on some good old ‘bush’ medicine, I have to do what I have to be well. 

Have a great weekend my lovelies!

 

Live the life you love; love the life you live!

 

Likes & Dislikes…

Likes…

  • Knowing that while my circle of friends is small; it’s the quality not the quantity that matters
  • Distance is no match for the closeness of two hearts
  • The young lady I currently mentor was asked during the formal part of the pageant she entered, “what living person inspires you and why?”  She said, I was 😀 (quite a tear invoking moment)
  • Liking myself enough to know that even when I’m alone, I’m never lonely because I’m in good company
  • Trusting the solicited and comforting advice/suggestions of those I trust enough to share my inner feelings with
  • Lil Lady being the most important and significant thing I’ve ever done in my life
  • That I’m going to write a screenplay of my Self-Harm and market it for production
  • That Barack Obama was reelected

Dislikes…

  • The extreme, overt, and uncalled hatred toward Barack Obama
  • The apathy that so many have and exercise; yet complain about so much
  • That to date, my mother knows nothing of my Self-Harm and may only find out once my screenplay is produced
  • The lack of parenting of children today
  • That in 2012 the levels of hatred toward non whites, gays, etc, is so ridiculously prevalent
  • Unused potential
  • The social disconnect due to technology
  • Young women who’ll spend more on their hair and appearance instead of applying it toward their education
  • The word “swag” still being used…it’s a fad/trend…TEMPORARY…seek something classic and/or timeless

That is all!

Likes/Dislikes…

What I like/dislike about myself right now

LIKES

  1. I’m healthy
  2. I’ve cleaned out my closets literally and figuratively
  3. Knowing who my real friends are
  4. I say what I mean and mean what I say
  5. I truly let go and let God
  6. I walk by faith
  7. Having healthy relationships (intimate/platonic)
  8. I’m closing chapters/doors
  9. Making preparations for my new year
  10. Having a healthy/positive outlook

DISLIKES

  1. Though not looking it, but being 10lbs over my weight preference
  2. People thinking my kindness is a weakness
  3. Not spending enough time with certain friends/family
  4. Living paycheck to paycheck
  5. Not writing daily
  6. Not traveling like I used to
  7. Not maintaining a balanced diet
  8. Not always using my time at home wisely
  9. Having acted passive-aggressively
  10. Not speaking up sooner

That is all!