RIP to a Phenomenal Woman – Maya Angelou


Today, I am deeply saddened by the loss of Maya Angelou.  Aside from the amazing strides she made in and for society, black women primarily, but all women and the literary contributions, she made a huge impact on my life.  Mother Maya, as I’d always fondly referred to her as, touched my life greatly.  I possess many of her works, which served to inspire, encourage and uplift me into the woman I am today.  She rose above her so-called lacks, overcame much adversity, was a victor,  and a woman of high regard when many thought less of her.  She refused to settle for less and was inspired and encouraged to succeed against the odds…She did!


Mother Maya was world renowned, which for a black woman is an amazing feat to accomplish.  Mother Maya taught us to be phenomenal, to be great, to be all that we could be and still strive for me.  Her presence, her voice, her will was awe worthy and commanding, yet dispensed with grace and dignity.


I tend not to jump on the band wagon of those of celebrity who’ve passed, but in this instance, I’d be remiss if I didn’t.  Again, Mother Maya was and will continue to be a woman I honoured and felt greatly touched and influenced my life.  I’ve used her as a source of reference when mentoring young woman.  I’ve gifted her books to young woman so they, too, could be encouraged, inspired, and know their worth.

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The black community, the literary world, and many lives were blessed by her activism; her poise; her teachings and her passing is a great loss to them all. It is my hope that those who were touched, influenced, and affected by Mother Maya will continue her legacy in some form so that all she gave us will not be for naught.


RIP Mother Maya, you’ll be greatly and sorely missed.



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Update to previous post…

So, you may recall reading my post Fast teen invokes murder where the father of a teen girl killed her boyfriend after denying she knew him when confronted, well, there is an update.

According to the following MadameNoire the family want the girl charged along with her father for her role in the death of Johran McCormick. Honestly, I completely agree and said that when I posted about the story. She’s an accessory to his murder based on her lie. I’m happy to see this update and hope that a decision will be made soon.

Still SMDH at these damn kids these days.

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Fast ass teen invokes a murder…)*^%$)*$^) kids these days…

For those unfamiliar with the story, read here Father shoots teen boy

As a parent, I know there were things that my daughter may or may not do. Granted we can never truly swear for what our kids will do, I always hoped it would be the right thing. I taught her it’s best to be honest and face the consequences than to lie and make a bad situation worse. Again, we can’t never know what our kids will do when caught, but as a parent, we can only hope that our reaction to the situation is one that won’t compound the baseline issue.

In the case of this, in my opinion, fast-ass-lying-ass-lil-heffa, she shouldn’t have lied to her father when he busted her in bed with a boy she invited over. Now, I can’t say whether or not she knew her daddy had a gun in the house, but when she saw him reach for one, she should have confessed to knowing the kid. I think the father went to extremes in handling the situation and while he hasn’t been indicted yet according to the story, it’s likely he will be. Personally, I think his hot-in-the-pants daughter should be charged with involuntary manslaughter for lying and causing the boys death.

What the hell is wrong with kids these days? I’m not going say I was the model teen, but I’ll be damned if 1) I was going to bring a boy to the house with my folks home and 2) I damn sure wouldn’t have lied when caught given the evidence is right there. This is a very sad story and an egregious act of gross negligence on the part of both the father and daughter.

The family of the boy thought he was still on Spring Break and he was taught not to go into a girls room unless his presence was known. I guess he learned the hard way on that. SMDH! Once again, as a mother, I’d hope that my child would have sense enough to not pull a stunt like the one he did that got him killed.

This story saddens me and I’m curious to see how it plays out.

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Baby feeling the spirit…


This video gives proof that babies/children feel things that many adults don’t and aren’t afraid to show it either. I came across this video and felt it needed to be shared. All too often, I see videos promoting children clearly not acting like children and adults recording it like it’s newsworthy.

This little girl is obviously feeling the spirit and her actions prove it.

Have a great day luvies!

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Born This Way

By now, many of you have heard that Mizzou Football player, Michael Sam came out as being gay, which naturally caused mixed reaction from the NFL, media, and everyday people alike.

Personally, I think was Michael Sam has done is courageous, positive, and a testament to his character.  I’d rather see him be true to his authentic self than to remain “in the closet” or “on the down low” and live a pretentious life in order to secure their dream or be whatever someone else wants them to be.  I realize that he has in some ways put a target on his back, but at the end of the day, how can that not be respected regardless of what ones views are on homosexuality?  It’s sad and ironic how we can makes concessions, excuses, and justify someone’s adultery or infidelity, but we can’t or won’t accept someone’s blatant honesty about their sexuality.  The worse offense are those who “toy” with the idea of bi-sexuality as “just a phase” when there are so many that are being true and still catch Satan’s hell for their honesty.

Coming from a Jamaican family, accepting a homosexual family member took a lot for some of my family members because being gay in Jamaica; even the presumption thereof is tantamount to signing your own death warrant.  What’s worse, the government and police may even find ways to justify hate crimes against the gay community.  Being that my gay family member resides in the US, he’s a little more immune to the overall and overt hatred shown to him and his orientation, but that’s not to say he didn’t catch some initial flack within the confines of his/our family.  Being his father’s namesake and only son, I’m sure it was harder on him than the rest of the family, but at the end of the day, his son is his son and love conquers all.  My cousin lives his life authentically and I applaud him for that in spite of the bigotry I  know he receives.  Sadly, I’d rather him experience the known hatred he probably faces from time to time, than to live hating himself for not being able to be who he is.

I’d like to think that the NFL, other players, and fans will accept Michael Sam first as a ball player with his talents to qualify him for the coveted placement and then for being a man, and lastly for being a gay man.  As long as he can perform the requirements necessary for his position is what the aforementioned should concern themselves with.  I think it’s pretty pathetic that straight men think that just because someone is gay, they want them or checking them out.  Just like every straight woman wouldn’t be checking them out; there is simply no difference.  I, personally think it’s the insecurity of the heterosexual man that makes them uncomfortable around gay men and said gay man shouldn’t have to play a role or part in order to make the heterosexual man comfortable.  

Homosexuality has and will always be a part of society and we need to educate ourselves instead of remaining ignorant and socially unaccepting.  Just as we don’t choose our skin colour or gender, gay people do not choose to be gay’ I can’t think of anyone who’d want to willing sign up to be discriminated against.

Again, I applaud and respect Micheal Sam for being comfortable in his own skin to open up about something so personal.  He may or may not succeed in the NFL, but in my book, he’ll succeed in life because his action spoke volumes.  We spend so much time assuming or suspecting this or that person is gay, so he has removed that worry from his life.  He can be out in public without the paparazzi scoring as much money; they’ll sell his photos regardless, as they would if he’d remained quiet about his orientation.  Talk about sticking it to the media! ^5  What he has also done, is given other young gay men and women an opportunity to likewise be true to themselves and remove the proverbial Scarlet Letter from their chests.  His road ahead may not be an easy walk, but at least he can do it in comfortable shoes. 😉

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I’d like to teach the world to sing…

Like most of America, I watched the Super Bowl and paid attention to the many commercials that successfully vied and made it to the most coveted spots in television advertising. I enjoyed some of the commercials and contrary to many Americans, I quite enjoyed the Coke commercial. While watching it, I said to My Love, “there’s gonna be all kinds of flack on this one.” He nodded in agreement.

Last I checked, this country is called the United States of America, and I’d like to hazard a guess that ‘united’ not only stands for the culmination of the 50 states, but also the mélange of nationalities this country comprises of. So, unless I missed something in history class where the US; again, emphasis on U was also referred to as the “melting pot” and melting means, to liquefy or blend gradually. Therefore, on that premise, I think it’s safe to say that the ‘United’ States of America means to unite and blend gradually the many origins of its people.

I digress and back to my issue. The Coke commercial presented America the Beautiful in English and the languages of other countries to represent the collective population of America; thus, creating a social media hail storm of negativity. People were up in arms that the song was not presented solely in English. Being from another country, which is also often referred to and seen as a melting pot for its diverse cultural and ethnic population, as a black woman from said country who has served in the US Armed Forces, I take offence to those who are enraged that the song wasn’t sung solely in English. I resent that those offended spewed their bigotry; especially when they’ve probably never lived outside of the country, experienced life as a minority, and never served their own military yet cry patriotism.

These very same “patriots” probably never gave patriotism much thought until 9/11 and then all of sudden everyone became An American and claimed their rights as citizens to defend their country if in no other way, but by voicing it. As I said, I served military and enlisted before I was even a citizen, so I’d like to say, “shut the hell up!” These new-fangled patriots make me laugh. I’m especially amused by those who don’t even simply say “I’m American”, but preface it with the origin of their fore parents who left their original countries of birth to restart their lives in America. Suddenly everyone has become “I’m (insert country/nationality) American forgetting that some of their fore parents never fully learned English and/or passed down their native tongue in order to preserve their history, cultural integrity, and/or diversity of which many still speak or practice their cultural events thereof.

Wait, I’m running off track here…My beef is not with Coke as I originally said. I enjoyed the commercial and thought it great that Coke, which is a globally recognized brand that is consumed with immediate recognition regardless of knowing the language of the country it’s being sold in. I take issue with those opposing Coke’s doing America the Beautiful in many languages. America is beautiful for cultural diversity not in spite of it. America is beautiful because people from all over the world became a part of it and brought pieces of their homelands to help build it and create it.

Back in the 70s CoCa Cola’s theme song was “I’d Like To Teach The World To Sing”, it specifically said “World” not “America”, so if it’s teaching the world to sing, then it sings in many tongues, not solely in English. The native tongue of this country was not English, it was the many tongues of the Native Americans that resided here. It became English after being colonized and even then, there were Dutch settlers and many of whom still speak in Dutch; the Amish for example, but I guess folk forgot that and maybe need to go back to school.

I will say I’m open minded enough to say I allow people their opinions and that if you live in a country such as America where the primary language is English that one should learn how to speak the language; however, do those who travel outside of the country take the time to learn the native tongue of the country they’re visiting? I’m sure those residents could say speak our language while you’re here. Furthermore, the English spoken here isn’t even authentic. Americans speak a derivative of the English language, so I think I have the right to challenge here…I speak English; proper English at that.

Those objecting to Coke’s Super Bowl commercial have vowed to stop drinking Coke, which made me laugh because Coke has so many other products; many of which these offended consumers will still purchase, so I’m sure they’re really not hurting Coke and its entities at all. And since most Coke drinkers have their preference to Pepsi, what will they drink instead? What these offended consumers don’t realize is that Corporate America has its share of offending practices like racial profiling for products, using slave labour, outsourcing to the very countries whose language may have been used in the Coke commercial; the same clothing which they proudly purchase and wear. Corporate America is driven by power and profit and the latter being what the offended fail to see. They can hate on Coke for the commercial and still support another company that is stomping on their rights for gender, sexual orientation, race, demography, to name a few. The so-called “Offended” may want to take a better look at themselves and then dig deep and I mean real deep into the corporations they support before casting stones at something that should be uplifting and inspiring.

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What do you believe..?

I’ve been following this story Baby Slain in Stroller and I have conflicted views on how it’s playing out.

The mother of the slain baby identified the alleged shooter from a book of photos and then it was reported than an anonymous tip led to the arrest of alleged shooter. This information was online. I also heard a radio announcers account of the story, which is similar to that presented online; however, the radio report stated that the boys aunt provided an alibi for the time of the shooting.

Here’s my conflict…I want to believe the woman whose baby was shot and I want to believe the anonymous tip; however, an alibi was given for the alleged shooters whereabouts. To add even more conflict the my thoughts is that I know people lie on behalf of their loved ones even if they believe they’re guilty; it’s a sad fact of human nature.

Personally, I would in no way protect a family member who’d allegedly shot someone’s baby regardless of how old the alleged offender is; in this case a 17-year-old. I’m in no way suggesting or implying guilt, but I do believe there is a lot more to this story and a part of me truly does believe that family will cover its tracks quicker than a crab will bury itself in sand.

There has been no update to the crime as yet.

Live the life you love; love the life you live!