Given my current erratic state of mind, I thought it best not to try and post something that requires a consistent thought process, so instead, I’m going to compile a few things I’ve got gripes with and why. Strap on your seatbelts kiddies, this could be a rollercoaster ride…
As a dark skinned woman who’s heard the phrase “you’re pretty to be dark skinned”, which tends to illicit a plethora of emotions mostly ranging in the rage mode where I have to count very quickly to 10 as not to spew the stream of expletives forming in my mouth from the foolishness I’ve just heard. Contrary to popular belief ALL shades of black is beautiful and should NOT now be suddenly embraced because Lupita Nyong’o has won an Oscar and broken the white societal stereotype for black women. More importantly, we as a black community, should have long embraced our wide and varied hues instead of waiting for mass media to shove it in our faces. I understand the past force-fed attitude and belief that darker skinned blacks were less than, but it’s 2014 damn it, so get a damn grip.
Why is it that when the likes of Beyonce, Jennifer Hudson and the like take their damn weaves out the media goes crazy talking about “oh, check out their new bob or hairdo!” Really??? Freaking really? This is one of the most annoying things I have the misfortune to read in the media. Now, I’m not saying that these or other woman can’t and don’t grow long hair, but damn, let’s call a spade a spade and stop all the damn pretense.
Please for the love of all things that make sense, can someone please tell me why they’re still caught up in how many people are on their Facebook, following them on Instagram or Twitter? Real friends are a small and valuable commodity and counted in quality and not quantity. Got me shaking my damn head so hard I’m getting a headache.
Was having a conversation with My Love and were were discussing the importance of dressing well. I didn’t say out of budget, I said ‘well’. Dressing well makes you feel good, evokes positive responses and can sure as hell my a woman’s panties wet without a touch. He dresses okay and looks nice when he dresses and has argued that he doesn’t need a closet full of clothes. I agree; however, having the necessary basics and being able to coordinate a nice ensemble without having to run to the mall is key. We were out and saw a group of men closer to our demographic and he gave me that ‘look’ to punctuate what I’d been saying. Their women were well dressed and they were selling their women quite short. While this comment is an immediate indictment to men, I caution women to step their respective fashion game up too.
And for shits and giggles, I’ll throw this pic in. The dress cost $8.49 and the shoes $19.99 (both designer gear I might add) and for $28.48 I looked amazing if I say so myself. Styling on a budget 😉
Yea, I said that!