Born This Way

By now, many of you have heard that Mizzou Football player, Michael Sam came out as being gay, which naturally caused mixed reaction from the NFL, media, and everyday people alike.

Personally, I think was Michael Sam has done is courageous, positive, and a testament to his character.  I’d rather see him be true to his authentic self than to remain “in the closet” or “on the down low” and live a pretentious life in order to secure their dream or be whatever someone else wants them to be.  I realize that he has in some ways put a target on his back, but at the end of the day, how can that not be respected regardless of what ones views are on homosexuality?  It’s sad and ironic how we can makes concessions, excuses, and justify someone’s adultery or infidelity, but we can’t or won’t accept someone’s blatant honesty about their sexuality.  The worse offense are those who “toy” with the idea of bi-sexuality as “just a phase” when there are so many that are being true and still catch Satan’s hell for their honesty.

Coming from a Jamaican family, accepting a homosexual family member took a lot for some of my family members because being gay in Jamaica; even the presumption thereof is tantamount to signing your own death warrant.  What’s worse, the government and police may even find ways to justify hate crimes against the gay community.  Being that my gay family member resides in the US, he’s a little more immune to the overall and overt hatred shown to him and his orientation, but that’s not to say he didn’t catch some initial flack within the confines of his/our family.  Being his father’s namesake and only son, I’m sure it was harder on him than the rest of the family, but at the end of the day, his son is his son and love conquers all.  My cousin lives his life authentically and I applaud him for that in spite of the bigotry I  know he receives.  Sadly, I’d rather him experience the known hatred he probably faces from time to time, than to live hating himself for not being able to be who he is.

I’d like to think that the NFL, other players, and fans will accept Michael Sam first as a ball player with his talents to qualify him for the coveted placement and then for being a man, and lastly for being a gay man.  As long as he can perform the requirements necessary for his position is what the aforementioned should concern themselves with.  I think it’s pretty pathetic that straight men think that just because someone is gay, they want them or checking them out.  Just like every straight woman wouldn’t be checking them out; there is simply no difference.  I, personally think it’s the insecurity of the heterosexual man that makes them uncomfortable around gay men and said gay man shouldn’t have to play a role or part in order to make the heterosexual man comfortable.  

Homosexuality has and will always be a part of society and we need to educate ourselves instead of remaining ignorant and socially unaccepting.  Just as we don’t choose our skin colour or gender, gay people do not choose to be gay’ I can’t think of anyone who’d want to willing sign up to be discriminated against.

Again, I applaud and respect Micheal Sam for being comfortable in his own skin to open up about something so personal.  He may or may not succeed in the NFL, but in my book, he’ll succeed in life because his action spoke volumes.  We spend so much time assuming or suspecting this or that person is gay, so he has removed that worry from his life.  He can be out in public without the paparazzi scoring as much money; they’ll sell his photos regardless, as they would if he’d remained quiet about his orientation.  Talk about sticking it to the media! ^5  What he has also done, is given other young gay men and women an opportunity to likewise be true to themselves and remove the proverbial Scarlet Letter from their chests.  His road ahead may not be an easy walk, but at least he can do it in comfortable shoes. 😉

Yea, I said it!

9 thoughts on “Born This Way

  1. I have witnessed the prejudices against gay people first hand and it’s not nice, so applauds to the man and others like your cousin for making a stand and living their lives in the open. No one should ever face hate because of their sexual orientation. I kinda sympathise with your uncle, it’s a tough one for the alpha hetero male to deal with, especially from an only son. I am fond of my rascally sons, given to bragging about them, would like to see them grow up and get married to good pretty women, have kids, keep the family name going etc.

    • You’re right, the prejudices are insane and unnecessary given that they’re people too; just with a sexual preference. When Lil Lady was younger, I told her that I didn’t care if she liked boys or girls; all that was important to me was that she was treated well by whomever she was involved with. Lil Lady isn’t gay, but at least she knew that she’d be loved and accepted regardless. I never understood parents who disown or turn their backs on their kids for being gay. The home is where we’re supposed to be and feel and be safe; instead so many are rejected. We’ve got so much learning to do.

  2. And a huge applause for Michael for having the courage to stand firm. And to think in extreme situations, some people would rather end their life than admit what they are.

    And then you get the situation of, man married with three kids, yet has had extra marrital affairs with other men. Despairing in his attempts to live a double life, he is invairiably doing a dis-service to himself, his wife and children. All because in the African home you dare not be abnormal.

    I’d like to think fleeting from our generation to the next few years, individuals who don’t fit societies sexual orientation “norm” will be pardoned for choosing to live via a “different” path as it were.

    Life is tough enough without the fear of living in a closet without any oxygen for eternity….

    • I so love your closing remark “Life is tough enough without the fear of living in a closet without any oxygen for eternity….” That is so very true. I understand some people inflict the fear of coming out upon themselves, but overall, in order to live as you stated, they need to be true to themselves. I do think that the upcoming and next generation will be more open, supportive, and accepting of the LBGT community.

      I recently watched a youtube video of kids reacting to the Cheerios commercial that depicted an inter-racial couple with their bi-racial daughter where many adults reacted poorly and with hateful comments. The kids loved the commercial and were appalled by the actions of adults. So, I’m convinced the next-gen will actually ‘get it’

  3. I am glad he came out. Imagine the whole media surge if he was “found out”.

    I grew up with “two uncles”. I wrote a post about my grandfather’s brother, my Uncle Olin.. and his friend Otis. Since my siblings and I grew up around them, we have no issues with homosexuals. It is all a bit bizarre to us that people do.

    There was a big discussion on the Al Sharpton show about it all. Al said that if a man has a problem with someone else being gay (someone said “we should get rid of them all), then that man has a problem within his own manhood. I totally agree with that. And I think it is fear based. The men probably think the gay men would come after them. Which doesn’t make sense.

    Good post.

    • Dubble L, you are so right; so right indeed! I demystified himself and that is what I found the most impressive.

      You were fortunate to have had “two uncles” and learn that it’s okay and “just is”, because in spite of what many think, homosexuality is a normal part of society regardless of religious or whatever their beliefs are.

      Al Sharpton and I apparently share the same view about those who are insecure around gay men. It’s also their egos that lead them to think that because someone else is gay, he’ll hit on them. Puhleez!

      It’s funny that those who are so homophobic (NFL/NBA) gesture some very homosexual acts…IJS 😉

  4. I respect what he did and I hope the best for him.

    As a man, I will tell you that most men are cold, hard and unforgiving. There are tens of millions of people in this country that will hate him just for being gay…….and just as many that will hate him for having a permanent suntan as well. He chose the road less traveled and he decided to not only come out, but to do it on his own terms and control the way the information was given. I respect him for that. I’m an adult, I don’t understand why other people are so concerned about what goes on in someone else’s home. I’m sure that sometimes it’s because they have their own suppressed desires that they see as ugly or maybe evil?!?

    Despite the fact that there hasn’t been much outcry from the other current and soon to be NFL players, he’s gonna probably get a very cold shoulder in the locker room, especially in and around the shower; and he’s gonna hear some really ugly nasty shit from the stands at home and especially on the road.

    People in this country are mean spirited and downright ugly, it is what it is. If he stands strong like Jackie Robinson did, he will make it easier for others just like him to come out. Maybe if he runs into bigots on his own team, maybe he should call them out in the locker room, but maybe the media isn’t the place for that. This isn’t going to be an easy something to do, but I do wish that brother the best.

    If he’s drafted by my Steelers, I will pull for him. All of the Steelers could be gay as long as they win, I wouldn’t give a good damn.

    • I applaud your comment Reggie! I like to hear well thought out responses to such sensitive topics because you’ve once again shown how the mindless seem to want to represent for the mindful.

      It’s a given that regardless of Michael Sam outing himself, he’s going to catch all kinds of hell for his action. His talent will always be prefaced by the fact that he’s gay; as if he’s the first or only gay to play a testosterone-infused sport. The only thing that separates him is that he’s HONEST about it.

      I do hope he remains strong and true to himself and his abilities not only in spots, but in life overall in order to pave the way for others since it so desperately needs to be done.

      I couldn’t help but chuckle in reference to your Steelers 😉

      This is going to be a curious draft to say the least.

  5. I’m sure that over the years there have been more than a few well known athletes that were gay and simply kept it to themselves. They probably married someone and made them miserable because they were too uncomfortable with the realities of life to just go ahead and be themselves.

    It’s their nature, so they should accept it…….but does our society make it easy on them?!? No. I want to believe that if I was gay that I would have been true to myself, but who knows?!? In the black community there are those that will never accept homosexuality as a norm. Still others that will never accept a family member that’s homosexual; and the simple truth is that we ALL have homosexual family members.

    People are so close minded.

    One things for sure about this country and that’s that the bigotry and prejudice trains are never late.

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