Even without speaking, we send messages by our body language, interests, kindnesses, absence or presence, silence. Add words to the mix, and we have a recipe for remarkable impact, whether positive or negative. – Dr. Charles Stanley
When I read Dr. Stanley’s quote this morning, I recalled how Bill Clinton’s body language and words were broken down after his speech endorsing President Obama and while I didn’t need analytical evidence to confirm much of what I already know, it was oddly good to have it broken down just a little bit further. Why? Because I’ve always known that silence can and does speak volumes and also because the expression, “it’s not what you say, it’s how you say it”, goes hand-in-hand with silence speaking volumes.
Just because one is smiling; doesn’t mean they’re happy. Their eyes, gesturing, and body language will confirm or deny their happiness. However, because we condition ourselves to only grasp what is physically obvious, we neglect the benign message/truth in what’s really being said. Simply put, we just don’t pay attention to the signs.
We live in a world where virtual communication runs rampant and things can and do get misconstrued quickly and easily. We forget that text can’t talk; therefore, don’t realistically convey our emotions and sentiments; regardless of the “lol” or supporting emoticons. We’re a world distracted, dehumanized, distant, and often times without proper or adequate means of real expression. Essentially, we’ve forgotten how to communicate, so things, as I previously stated, get missed.
Language comes in many forms and Dr. Stanley expressed simply; though strongly how important communication in its various states. We have to and need to be aware of what we’re saying at all times. We have to make clear distinctions of saying what we mean and meaning what we say in word and supporting body language.
Be our communication verbal or silent, it conveys a powerful energy, which should not be taken lightly. It is our responsibility to know whether we’re articulating in the affirmative or the negative and how we’ll impact others.
In the past two weeks, we’ve heard a lot of posturing from the various contingents of the Democratic and Republican parties. We’ve heard the words, read between the lines, and even watched the body language. How many of us were able to distinguish “the remarkable impact” they sent? We have to remain in tuned family and it starts within. It starts with each of us knowing how we speak and how to speak. We must speak from truth. We must speak from and with clarity. We must know and understand the message we’re trying to convey. We must listen to the inner voice that is often the voice of truth, reason; our intuition…our gut. We must honour ourselves to live by positive word, action, and deed because body language can easily turn our so-called spoken truth into a lie.
I’ll close with this analogy. A man says, “I love you” to his wife…words and then beats her…action/body language…”Even without speaking, we send messages by our body language, interests, kindnesses, absence or presence, silence. Add words to the mix, and we have a recipe for remarkable impact, whether positive or negative.”
Need I say more?
That is all!