While helping a friend through her transition and current state of affairs, I began to see that I, too, am feeling that I’m in a transitoinal place in my life. I have been praying for a change in my relationship and some of it has happened, but there are some other things that require a little more attention; me speaking up!
My friend and I are brutally honest with each other and even if the words may feel like a hard slap; we know there is love and purpose behind them. We don’t sugar coat shit and call it candy, because that’s not real. We deal in real. We deal with what needs to be said and not what we want to hear. We’re fortunate to have that devotion, dedication, loyalty, and most of all HONESTY.
Anyway, while speaking with her, I felt the lock on my emotional door begin to open and I started having some internal dialogue and I didn’t like the way the conversation was going. I didn’t rebuke what my inner voice was saying because like my friend, I trust it. It’s my spirit of discernment; the small voice that speaks really loudly and rings in my ears like a church bell. After processing the plethora of feelings/emotions, I reached out to her and as expected, she delivered the affirmations, confirmations, and most importantly The Truth.
Full disclosure is so very necessary for growth, clarity, and healing. It releases all the toxicity that’s built up and opens the heart and life channels to better understanding, appreciation, and restoration. If more people actually engaged in it, they’d be better off and relationships; platonic and/or intimate would be better lived and appreciated.
I’m ready to move on and move forward even if the receiving party has difficulty in what I’m saying. It’s not about me throwing stones or trying to put myself on a pedastal; I simply want to achieve and have the fullness I want, deserve, and need for healthy living. I can’t concern myself with someone else’s feelings at the risk of sacrificing my own as that’s not living authentically, which is very important to me. My growth process has not been an easy one and now that I’ve reached the higher part of the mountain, I don’t want to fall backward.
Full disclosure here I come on my big horse looking like Lady Godiva; open and vulnerable, but willing to face things head on.
I challenge each of you to examine yourselves, your lives, and your relationships and find ways to incorporate more Full Disclosure. Release yourself from the hostage situations, the white lies, the comfort zones, and/or whatever else that keeps you from authentic living.
That is all!