My body; my choice

I was not going to address this topic, but with all the drama in the news and the constant nagging; I felt I needed to get some things off my chest.

Like most women and some supportive men, I take no pleasure or comfort with these politrickers telling what I can and can’t do with my body. I’m tired of their constant ranting and raving about what they feel is right or acceptable for me and other women alike.

At sixteen, my mother took me to Planned Parenthood; not because I was sexually active, but to get the education needed for whenever I became so. I was educated on the many and various forms of birth control, STDs, pregnancy, as well as my overall gynecological health. I felt that I was given the tools and resources needed for me to make an informed decision for myself. Contrary to what the politrickers are trying to say about Planned Parenthood, they did not promote abortion and to the best of my recollection, it was only brought up as part of my being informed as to my options regarding pregnancy. I vividly recall the nurse saying it wasn’t the option I should immediately go for if I found myself facing and unplanned or unwanted pregnancy because it came with a plethora of emotions with having to make such a decision. She also stated that it was something that had to be carefully decided logistically as there were still doctors and centers that performed services in places that were not in compliance with appropriate medical compliances and preyed on the fragility of women facing such a decision. Again, I found myself well informed, well educated, and very capable at making decisions regarding my sexual and gynecological well-being.
Time passed and I found myself needed birth control and I returned to Planned Parenthood in order to go over the choices that would best suit my needs and Planned Parenthood once again provided the appropriate tools and resources for me. They did not promote casual sex or promiscuity as these politrickers would have you believe and in fact, the few girls I knew that had abortions, did not have them at a Planned Parenthood facility; but instead at private clinics. So, these morons need to get their damn facts straight. That aside, Planned Parenthood served my needs for GYN health and my birth control, which was being used properly for both pregnancy and STD prevention in addition to alleviating the severe cramping that came with my period.

Fast forward to 1991 where my boyfriend at the time decided to PLAN a pregnancy. We consulted with our respective doctors to get the necessary health checks and proceeded forthwith. In April of 1992, I gave birth to our daughter and was content with the decision we made. Since we were not married and our relationship ultimately failed, I found myself facing whether or not I’d want more children. In truth, I never really saw myself as a mother/parent when I was younger; the reasons are a blog for another day, but I couldn’t convince myself that I needed to have another child; so I decided that getting my tubes tied was the best option for me. My daughter was about 3 at the time and I consulted with my then doctor about permanent birth control. To my astonishment, he frowned upon my decision citing, I was under 30, only had one child, and may change my mind in the future. WHAT?? I was 24 when I made a CONSCIOUS and educated decision to have child and here was three years later, a little older and wiser, making yet another conscious and educated decision not to have another child and I’m being told “no”. Needless to say I wasn’t happy and presented this to the doctor. “So, you mean to tell me, I can go out and have a baby with whomever I want with his permission or otherwise and the insurance company is okay taking on that financial burden of my pre/post natal care in addition to the healthcare of my baby, but they won’t allow permanent pregnancy prevention?” His reply; and without hesitation “yes”. Now, you tell me that’s not some straight boolshyt right there?! 😕

So, here I am paying for birth control which over time would be more costly than the same day procedure of getting my tubes tied, which to date is the dumbest thing I’d ever heard. Fast forward a year and a half later where I have a new health plan and a doctor who’ll actually listen to my wants and…wait for it…CONCURRED with my decision. Why? He said, “it’s your body and your choice”. Yay for my doctor! So, in the fall of 1996, I got my tubes tied and have not looked back since.

I fail to see how or why these moronic gaping wide a-holes think they know what’s best for me. I have issues with the commercials that promote male sexual function and I have further issue with the fact that many men can and have gotten their Cialis, Viagra, or whatever blue pill they need to get their d*cks hard and stay up, but getting birth control covered is a problem. Really? I take offense to the fact that more than 50% of politrickers have been linked to some damn sex scandal, but they’re the dictators of all things moral and wholesome. C’mon son, who the fack do you think you’re fooling? The good majority of us are educated enough to know the pros and cons of our sexual habits. Yes, there are those who pop kids out like little crotch trophies and go on to have television shows to tout their fertility in the name of religion. Networks took great pleasure in chronically and in some ways even exploiting families of multiple multiples in one family, but a woman wanting to prevent pregnancy is a problem? ?Hmpth!! Let me also add that heterosexual sex is a TWO party activity and BOTH parties are and should be responsible for the outcome of their act. Sex is as old as time and is and will always be an act of both pleasure and procreation; it’s how and what each party wants from it where the decisions should be made. Yes, sometimes birth control fails and again, the option of that outcome should rest solely on the parties involved; not some damn politricker. More focus should be on the predators in the church of whichever religion instead of using religion as a political soapbox for spouting their illogical rhetoric.

We already have a deficient system that is supposed to protect abused and neglected children; how about the focus being put of fixing that system. These politrickers need to take religion out of this and insert common sense practices and education instead. They need to stop trying to dictate moral and religious views as if people aren’t capable of making sound decisions of their own. The church is deficient in many ways because it’s operated by HUMANS who are in and of themselves flawed and in many ways religion is a subject to interpretation regardless of what the Holy books say. When crime, injustice, and human frailty are removed from religious doctrine, then the politricers can use religion and their footstool.

Side note, a-holes like Rush Limbaugh with his illogical and downright asinine commentary and recently the borderline tyrannical rants of Kirk Cameron about homosexuality need__________ (insert your own thoughts) because I still can’t believe they had to gall to think saying what they did would go unaddressed or would be acceptable.

Well, I’ve dropped my two-cents in the bucket…woosah!
That is all!

2 thoughts on “My body; my choice

  1. Your body, your choice.

    This so called war on women and women’s choices by gray haired old men and so called conservative men is absolutely ridiculous.

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